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Sunday, January 30th, 2011
9:46 pm - Choosing a man...
psychtraveller Could somebody help me??? I was wondering what kind of men suit me. Im a personality kind of girl.(girl next door) Im nice, friendly, sweet, dont like disputes and fighting, sharing, open, shy etc.

Could you tell me what will happen when I get men who are..... skinny, cute, exciting, always making jokes, romantic, know what I mean?
Im like that too, but the other way. What will I get from them, and what wont I get?

And then there are those guys who you always have to take care of but for sex!!! They are players arents they? What do I and dont I get from them?

What other kinds of guys are out there for me?

I like guys who are non abusive, caring, loving, kind, understanding, good heart, good head, exciting, communicative, caring, and will love me for who I am.

Could you help me please???

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Saturday, January 6th, 2007
10:01 am - This is your moderator
psychtraveller Welcome back to teenscene! Teenscene is officially open once again. I am going to advertise on boards to bring more people in. Continue posting as you like, whatever comes to mind, is free for you and all to see. :)

- Would anyone else like to join the board of moderators?

Thats all. Have a happy posting teenscene life!

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Thursday, January 7th, 2010
7:00 pm - New here.

tater92
I had a live journal once before, but I had no friends on it and I just wrote. I got a new one and decided to use it differently.
I'm 17 years old, I'm a guy, and I'm in my senior year in high school. I want to keep my name Tater, or rather, I want to keep my real name anonymous. Last journal I had someone googled my name and found all of my stuff. It's rather personal what I write.
I decided that it doesn't matter if random people I don't know read my stuff, what can they do? But someone I know, learning all that about me? That was pretty awkward.
I love to help people. Keep that in mind, don't forget me. =]
I'm a nerd on the inside, but I don't look it. Maybe I'll put up a user pic of me later on.
Straight A's and all that. I Obey the speed limit [to some extent.] That kind of guy.
People that first know me don't know I'm a nerd write away. A video game playing, math loving, kind of guy. They see a skinny kid who is hilarious and seems to get along with everyone. Which is true... =]

Regardless, get to know me, I'm friendly.
I love writing. Obviously...

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Thursday, October 15th, 2009
4:23 pm - Please read and pass along.

misstoyou
  By:  http://blancheblack.blogspot.com/



Let me let you in on a little secret: Despite all their posturing, men are actually really vulnerable to women, and most men will do anything to hide this. Every day, they obsess over women’s bodies, women’s sensuality, women’s opinions of them, their ability to please women romantically and in bed…. and how to cover all that up under the illusion that they are indifferent to whether women like them or not. Some common ways men are encouraged to prove this indifference to themselves and others include disrespectful talk about women with the guys, trying to hurt women’s feelings, and generally defying what women want. Curiously, all such attempts from them seem to require an audience, usually male, which operates as a pep rally for psyching themselves out until they actually believe themselves.

They go to great lengths to hide their constant vulnerability towards the opposite sex from themselves. In relationships, they might hold on to this persistent façade by arguing, being contradictory, teasing and pushing buttons, and acting out in brazen selfishness with anything from using porn to blowing off household chores.

The thing about denial, however, is that the charade used to mask what one is so ashamed of has to escalate in intensity in order to keep blocking out one’s ever-nagging consciousness of it. And so you see some men making public attempts to provoke women with insults, making a show of indifference towards women’s unhappiness with them, speaking about women in a diminutive way with terms that trivialize their womanhood, and even acting out in physical ways against women. They make a hobby out of denying their emotional vulnerability to women’s approval of them, apparently bitter that women still dominate their thought life.

The fact that so many men work so hard to act this way in front of an audience shows just how much their behavior is an attempt to change their social image rather than being an indication of how they actually feel. Why do they have to prove their emotional invulnerability to others if they are so secure about it? Why put so much effort into denying something if they don't have something to hide?

It’s just like what many of us experienced with boys back in elementary school: boys often went out of their way to provoke, insult, and otherwise annoy the girls they actually liked and wanted to be around in order to prevent them and everyone else from knowing it. (Brilliant, eh? Lot of good it did them).

So, if men’s posturing and arguing don’t necessarily indicate what they want, but how they want to appear, what are they hiding? Consciously or subconsciously, men want more than anything to be wanted by women, to be able to attract the focused attention of the woman they're pursuing to the same degree that she attracts they're attention, which is a lot. Why do you think they drop their guy friends so readily once they get love-struck by some mysterious woman?

This means that whatever behavior of his manages to draw her attention and keep it on him largely determines how he treats her, whether that be because he is charming her or pissing her off.

When a man is really interested in a woman, whatever she wants in a man is what he wants to be for her, because he wants his already intense attention and appreciation of her womanly charms to be reciprocated. If she accommodates her own interests, he will adjust his behavior to ensure he continues to remain one of them. Once he has that reciprocation, however, he’s got what he wants so he has no reason to change what he’s doing. That’s alright if what he’s doing is bending over backwards to please you, but not if he’s slacking off. Give a man his ego trip and your attention and he’ll take both. Make him choose between the two and, if he’s into you, he’ll eventually choose your attention and drop the attitude.

Behavior therapy is very handy for this purpose.

The incentive for a man to leave his comfort zone and charm a woman is her expression of pleasure and approval when he responds in a charming way. Consistent acknowledgement of what a man does right will evoke more of the same from him, and willingness to go even beyond that to do other things you suggest. Expressing satisfaction when he does it right is the key to keeping it going.

All men, however, are prone to slip into the selfish modes of their upbringing. If they think they can’t be what a woman wants, they will settle for negative attention from a woman and begin to provoke her. Often, women can reinforce a bad behavior in a man just by giving him extra attention for it, even if it’s negative attention. That’s why negative attention towards men, like nagging or throwing dishes at them, rarely keeps a bad behavior of theirs at bay for very long- it is still a type of attention. This is where your honesty about how his behaviors turn you on or off comes in handy, if it’s expressed as an increase or decrease in your interest.

One of the best ways to discourage a bad behavior then is to highlight your lack of interest in it. Whether he’s just getting to know you or he already knows better, let the loss of your attention be the punishment for his disrespectful or difficult attitude by taking distance from him in whatever way works best for you.

If he complains about your cooking, for example, have him cook for himself the following night while you go out to dinner with a friend. If he teases you or makes jokes at your expense, look at him as if he’s speaking gibberish and acting unusually strange, then postpone your Saturday night plans with him to go out with the ladies to a hot comedy club instead. It will be much funnier than him, apparently. If he argues with your personal decisions, or pressures you to change them, cut your time with him short by saying you have to get up early in the morning and need the whole bed to yourself to get a full night’s rest. Subtle reminders that you have other things you can be doing and other people to see will usually snap a man out of his indifference act.

If he repeats any of these negative behaviors, tell him directly what you don’t like about what he’s doing, and what behavior you want from him instead. If he persists despite your warning, tell him to leave so you can re-evaluate the relationship, then ignore his calls. Don’t argue. Take space and cool down. He’ll regret it later. A woman doesn’t have to get emotional and upset to teach a man a lesson. Just give him a choice.

If you’re in a female-led relationship, you can make a policy of stopping a heated argument by tying him to a chair in the bedroom for a little while and getting other things done around the house. Don’t forget to gag him! It gives him time to calm down and rethink his approach and it gives you time to do something you enjoy instead. Finish that book you’re in the middle of, or order take-out and relax in front of a rented movie.

To complete his lessons, wait until he shows a change of heart and until you’re feeling better, and then give him a chance to rephrase what he was trying to say before. Tell him what behavior you want from him instead of what he did, what type of behavior will please you, and have him do a few practice runs with you right then and there. When he does it to your satisfaction, reinforce this with some light praise.

Then, just to prove to the both of you that he can earn back your trust and confidence in him, assign him an unpleasant task or duty as a punishment for having upset you in the first place. It will prove just how sorry he really is for putting you down and being knowingly offensive. It can be cleaning toilets, buying tampons at a crowded supermarket, or bending over to take a spanking of some sort. You’d be surprised how much better you’ll feel once he accomplishes this as a token of his commitment to change his attitude. And once he endures it, he will feel much more optimistic about trying to be the man you want, now that he has a way to make up for his possible failures and start over with a clean slate from you. The more a man thinks he can be what a woman wants, and knows she won’t tolerate anything less, the more he will try for the positive attention rather than the negative attention.

In fact, assigning a man tasks that benefit you, especially tasks that challenge him, and showing him positive attention when he carries them out, strengthens this positive dynamic, increasing your trust in and satisfaction with him and increasing his sense of adventure in pleasing you.

Physical challenges are the best. Ask him if he can cook a three course French meal totally nude without burning himself or the food. See if he can carry both you and the groceries up the stairs and through the front door at the same time. Have him vacuum the whole house each day with 20-pound weights on his arms and legs. That will help get him in shape. Suggest he practice Kegel exercises and see how many times in a row you can have sex without him losing his erection. There are endless variations on this theme. Make sure when he succeeds to show him how excited and pleased you are by the results of his hard work. Challenge him to make slightly larger sacrifices of his comfort zone than he is used to in order to accommodate your sense of fun, and both of you will be excited when he exceeds his previous achievements. It will increase his excitement about making you ultra happy.

These are just the basics, of course. A woman can develop her own strategies along these same principles, according to what she knows about her partner, and the relationship will take on its own style of conflict resolution and romance.

Training a man is all about a woman getting the most from her man for the building of intimacy in the relationship, which requires him to come out of his privileged status so he can get to know and relate to her more. Helping him break free from ridiculous corporate myths and personal denial by confronting him with his desire for and attraction to her is all part of it. Why should other men's delusions control his state of mind towards her and get in the way of the intimacy between them?

 

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Monday, October 5th, 2009
6:31 pm
raimankha Hey guys,
my name's Aamira ( I have a different username because my name was taken)
I live in London and go to a girl's school so won't be posting anything about boy troubles anytime soon. All the same, add me because I have a lot of stuff to say and to discuss which are really hard to talk to with people who just aren't interested. Nothing's worser talking about something that really animates you when the other person doesn't give a crap. So...add me if you like what I like or just want me to read your blog.

Favourite Music: Fallout Boy, Panic At The Disco, The Wombats, The Killers, Gorrillaz, Outkast, Michael Jackson (obvs, ) Jason Mraz, Kings of Leon, All American Rejects, The Kooks, Justin Timberlake, The Rocket Summer, You Me At Six, Metrostation

Favourite programmes: Gossip Girl; Grey's Anatomy; Hollyoaks; Friends; Big Bang Theory; Smallville; One Tree Hill; The OC; Gilmore Girls; House M.D; Prison Break;

Favourite books: The Da Vinci Code; Harry Potter; Noughts Crosses Trilogy; Memoirs Of A Geisha; Angels And Demons; A Series Of Unfortunate Events; Brick Lane; Pride And Prejudice; A Thousand Splendid Suns; Gone

Favourite movies; Harry Potter; She's The Man; Transformers; Indiana Jones Saga; White Chicks; Lord Of The Rings; Finding Nemo; Star Wars; Mr. And Mrs. Smith; Angus Thongs And Full Frontal Snogging;The Ring; St Trinians; Batman Movies; X Men Movies esp. Wolverine; Oceans 11,12,13; Shrek;

Like what you see? Add me!

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Monday, September 8th, 2008
9:12 am

silentorspoken
heyy everyone! so i'm new to this group. but i already have issues to talk about. lol.

so if any of you have read my journal, then you will know what this is about. but for those of you who don't know, let me give you a little background...
.....i started liking this guy at work about three months ago. he's amazing in every way shape and form. and i fell hard for him, and fast. a friend at work told him, as well as everyone else on the planet, that i like him. he didn't really say too much, but it was a bit awkward after that. until i saw him the next morning at the DMV. (haha.) and he seemed really happy to see me :) so anyway....here's the issue...

....he's coming to my school. which....shouldn't be a problem right?
..wrong. i spent all summer getting him to notice me and become friends with him and get him to like me? maybe. idk how he feels. but i think he might. now, this amazingly gorgeous party guy is coming to my school. i know he's gonna be attacked by all the hott, rich, popular girls. i just know it. i can feel it already, and he's not even here yet. i feel like i'm going to lose everything i've done to get his attention, being friends. i'm so afraid that once he comes here; he won't think i have amazing eyes, or that i have a pretty smile; once he sees the girls in this school i'm so afraid of him forgetting about me :[

current mood: scared

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Thursday, August 14th, 2008
9:30 pm - Intro!

brandonboggs
Name: Brandon
Age: 15
Gender: Male
Location: Pennsylvania, America
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Favorite color: Black
Favorite animal: Fox
Favorite movie: Little Miss Sunshine
Favorite book: The Perks of Being a Wallflower
Favorite song: Dramamine - Modest Mouse, Creep - Radiohead
Favorite band: My Chemical Romance
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    So hey! I just joined LiveJournal recently, and I've started my very own personal blog. I kind of just want to make friends and learn things, and so on and so forth. My blog is basically just about me, my opinions, etc. I've been looking for a good teen-oriented community and I couldn't find one until now!
    So yeah. I'm your average teenager. I go to a small public high school and have plenty of friends. I do tend to wear clothes that might be described as 'scene' but I'm not part of that clique, exactly. I like loud music with screaming or a banjo... Urm... AND I want to make friends!
    So yeah. If you want to be my friend, just hit me up with a message or friend's request!
    Kay, thanks!

Brandon

current mood: NEW!

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Tuesday, August 7th, 2007
5:17 pm - What am I supposed to think?

jayce13
So my girlfriend and I decided to go on a break about 3 months ago, but we were still hanging out and hooking up during that time.  We both enjoyed being with each other but also having the freedom to be with other people.  Two weeks ago, we both moved into the same house (a giant house that is being shared by about 30 college students), and we began to act like a couple again.  Neither of us hooked up with anyone else, we spent pretty much every second together, and we slept together every night.  Then I went home to the East Coast for a week to see my family.  In the middle of the week my ex/non/semi girlfriend called me saying that she was unhappy and that she needed to know that we were together now, otherwise she was going to replace me with the wrong person simply to fill the empty void inside of her.  I wanted to get back together with her, so I said ok, although I had had no idea that she was unhappy and had thought we had been happily rekindling our relationship before I left.  THEN, when I got back, my girlfriend told me that she had had sex with some football player 2 days after I'd left for Connecticut.  I flipped out.  Now I'm not sure I want to get back together with her -- how could she have had sex with someone 2 days after I left but still wanted to get back together with me?  Am I overreacting?  Am I failing to see her side? 



current mood: crappy

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Tuesday, July 31st, 2007
11:16 pm - Help
plebgirl Okay, so i'm new to all of this, and don't know how to go about livejournalling. I figured i'd join a group and a teenage one seemed like the most sensical and, well, here I am. Any comments on my post would be greatly appriciated, or even just someone to explain how this thing works (besides the typing stuff out, clicking buttons, which i think i've mastered) 
Anyway, any interest would be great. Thanks! (:

current mood: confused

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Monday, May 21st, 2007
4:48 pm - I'd love to hear it.

lorby

He ya'll. 
My name's Laura, I'm 17 from Portland, OR. 
I have a new journal and am always asking for advice and ranting about crap. 
I'd love to have people I don't know read my stuff and get their opinions. 
Ta.

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Wednesday, February 7th, 2007
8:52 pm - Study on teenage sexuality

blueribbonscot
I'm cross-posting this madly, because I think it's that bloody significant. This article reads as a gross misrepresentation of the actual study. The second-to-last paragraph should appear much earlier. Everyone who's got any sexual experience to speak of knows that it can be both positive and negative, but (assuming you're doing it right) the majority, and the general net effect, is positive. And this study confirms that sex really is emotionally beneficial, that teens get more positive effects out of sexual activity (of whatever flavor) than negative effects.

But of course CNN has to hide the fact that sex might just be healthy for teenagers at the end because of the stigma that's attached to sex in general, and adolescent sexuality in particular. The vast majority of the negative effects can be done away with by society getting over it and accepting sex, both in theory and in practice.

Teenagers have sex, and there's not a whole hell of a lot that can be done about it. The best thing that can be done is to help them do it well and correctly, such that it's as fulfilling an experience as possible, without all of the excess grief and emotional overhead associated with it.

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Tuesday, August 8th, 2006
11:46 pm - LIttle problem
psychtraveller Everytime I try to log in to the community, I get a message saying 'community login is disabled'. How can I access the community then? Does anyone know... Anyway right now everyone can be a community member, you dont have to have a name in the info pg to be 1. I think I will not be able to access all the mod options, so plz dont be worried if ur name never appears in the members area of the info pg. Thanks.

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7:20 pm - Hi, Im the mod
psychtraveller My name is Selina and I hope yall have a nice time here. You can talk about anything under the sun, especially if you have teenage problems like if your family doesnt care for you, and you try commiting suicide, or if you have relationship problems (GF, BF probs) or you have trouble making friends cause you're really shy etc. Since Im the mod, let me introduce myself. Im 25, graduating this semester, without a boyfriend.. although I do have 1 close guy friend..maybe I can be the first one to start.

My friend, I like him a lot and I love him a lot too, but he doesnt ever tell me that he likes me. Even when I ask, his answer is ambiguous. And when I do go out with him, we always end up in the hotel rm. Im sad. I dont know what to do with him. Any words of comfort? :)

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Monday, August 7th, 2006
11:27 pm - Welcome to Teenscene
psychtraveller Are YOU a TEENAGER? Ever felt like you were a bucket full of problems in REAL LIFE with no one to CONSULT with? Come to teenscene and share your FEELINGS and PROBLEMS with other like you as they try to help you, or simply to make new friends. You remain anonymous yet you can still have people who help you solve your problems, who can emphatise with you and who care for you. Join our friendly team at teenscene and be part of our loving caring family today.

teenscene

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Friday, December 24th, 2004
12:47 am - x post GMAIL

wpanthergirl
NO MORE G-MAIL INVITES. SORRY, TOLD YOU THEY WERE LIMITED. IF YOU DIDN'T GET ONE SORRY.

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Thursday, December 23rd, 2004
5:01 pm - X POSTED OFF TOPIC

wpanthergirl
Ok I have a bout 10 G-mail invites to give away so if anyone wants one just comment on this with your e-mail and as soon as I get your post comment I will send out your invite.
Here is a bit abouy G-MAIL

A Google approach to email.
Gmail is an experiment in a new kind of webmail, built on the idea that you should never have to delete mail and you should always be able to find the message you want. The key features are:

Search, don't sort.
Use Google search to find the exact message you want, no matter when it was sent or received.

Don't throw anything away.
1000 megabytes of free storage so you'll never need to delete another message.

Keep it all in context.
Each message is grouped with all its replies and displayed as a conversation.

No pop-up ads. No untargeted banners.
You see only relevant text ads and links to related web pages of interest.

FIRST COME FIRST SERVE!

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Saturday, June 5th, 2004
4:52 am - Romantic Idea's.. Anyone?

birdyblueeyes
Ok hi I've posted before but now i need some help.. You see i have this new friend whom i've has this weird little crush on for a while. Now we never use to talk or anything but now that we do we found out that we have a lot in commen. I want to tell him that I think he's awesome, and i want to get closer to him so im planing what i call "Opperation Cucumber" He had told me what his favorit food was .. Mushroom Ravioli, and he can't cook.. so i thought i'd make it for him Picnic style, with 2 small salads and desert.. Tho im having difficulty figuring out what to make for desert.. he likes Jelly Bellys, also waffles.. He likes waffles because he doesnt have to cook them, being cooking challeneged and all.. lol So, being a little Inside joke i thought i'd do like a waffle napolian kinda deal. One of his favorit movies is Man On The Moon, mine also so i thought i'd pick it up (or borrow it) which ever and bring it to his house with dinner.. tho giving him notice that im coming say somthing like how bout we go get dinner tonight, I'll come over .. ect. And bring "Opperation cucumber" putting it into affect. His favorit color is green so maybe green plates and napkins or somthing .. or a green candle ? any idea's i need to know as soon as possible it'd help me ut a lot.

Thanks!
Tisha

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Tuesday, May 25th, 2004
12:50 am

wpanthergirl
All right today has completely blown. Work was so boring it made a day at Grace land with my parents and Brittany again appealing. There was nothing to do I had a whole 5 people to take care of all night. I was done an hour after dinner was over.I know normally people wouldn't bitch about having a slow day at work but it's annoying when you've woken up in one of them already bad moods. Mines not even a bad mood though, I'm getting completely emotional again and I can't stand myself in the slightest....neither can Casey. It's days like today (our 11 month anniversary) that make me wonder if it was worth it for either of us for him to have moved here, me to have moved out. All I seem to do is piss him off and he never seems happy with me. I don't mean to say this how most will take it but it reminds me a lot of my mom. I'm always being told what to do or being ripped apart. I hate it, it hurts, it's part of the reason I moved out and distanced myself from my mom as much as possible. I hate other people telling me what to do, how I feel, how I should feel, what I should worry about, what I should or shouldn't think about....it drives me crazy and I seriously just want to run my car into the next semi that comes my way. I love Casey, more than anything don't get me wrong. I live for him I try for him...and I know he tryst for me and he wouldn't' have left his family to be with me if he didn't care about me. And I've never doubted that he cares because of all he's done. Another thing I've tried to talk to him and a few other people about. I miss home so much. I know this apartment is supposed to be home but I still consider my parents house my real home. I lived there since the 4th grade. It was my first real home...first place I've stayed more than 2 years before picking up and moving again. It was my first stability and I loved it. Even with my moms nagging, I love her. I've always thought highly of my dad and that's never changed. I feel like a child when I say sometimes I just want to go home to my old room. I want to be a Freshman again...I miss how things used to be before people changed into drama queens, bitches, annoyances...before everyone fought like now. There are so many things I'd change about my self to stop all these things from happening. I'm afraid that the person I am isn't the person I should be, or could be. I'm afraid that Casey and I are just going to have a mediocre life because of all the struggling we have to do now. I'm afraid we wont be able to give our kids the things we want to, spoil them, because we don't have enough money. I want Casey and I to be able to help people, give money to people who need it and not be the people who need it. I want to make a difference, and I want to change peoples lives for the better. I'm afraid all i'm doing is changing them for the worse. I want to feel alive again, I've felt dead for so long and haven't had the words to express it, I still don't. My mom said something to me a little while ago "your just existing, your working to pay bills and have no extra. What kind of life is that?" when she was trying to convince me to come back home. I'd love it if I could too. I'd be able to save a lot of money to help me build a better future. Then theres Casey, he'd have to go back to Maine if I did that. Honestly, our relationship wouldn't last and that would kill me. It sounds pathetic but everything i've done the past year (and longer) was because or for him. I hate when we fight like we are now...it hurts me like nothing else could. I guess this is getting too long, i'm not even sure if anyone will read it. Sorry for bitching I just needed all of this off my chest.

gina

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Monday, May 10th, 2004
11:54 pm

wpanthergirl
Is there any way wanting to hurt yourself....badly....wouldn't be all crazy? Lately I just want to cause myself pain more and more often......

current mood: angry

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Thursday, May 6th, 2004
1:55 pm

iamaidiot
hey guys im new to this community but i'm bored out of my mind right now..i'm 20 yrs old about to be 21 so post anything u want..

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